I am a romantic at
heart. No, I am not a romance novelist. However, every book that I have written
has a romantic element. I am a fan of love. I love seeing happy couples
together and cringe when I see unhappy couples tolerating one another—I see
that a lot. When I read the book of Ruth, I was fascinated. They actually dated
in biblical times. Who knew? Seriously, I read it and I want to share what I
learned. I don’t know how long this series will last, but I will keep going
until it is done.
Personas are aspects of our personality that allows us to
function in today’s society. Most people fear the word, because no one wants to
be associated with being a fake. But it is a fact that how a person behaves
with their teacher is different than how they behave with their lover—or at
least it better be.
The bad boy and good guy persona exists in every man. In
order to be a good man, there has to be a balance or a merger. A good man is as
complete as he can possibly be, and a complete man will have an aggressive
side.
Women expect their men to do aggressive things like protect
them. She expects him to be adventurous and passionate. She expects him to be
particularly passionate and adventurous when it comes to her. Even after she
has pledged herself to him and him to her, she still wants to feel like she is
being chased. This will translate to every facet of their relationship. For
example, she may want him to order out for her when they go out to dinner.
(Guys, I don’t’ completely understand why any woman would want a man to order
for her, I have no clue. I know for a fact that they can order for themselves.)
Now the nice guy may need his Ruth to help him embrace his
necessary aggressive tendencies. And yes it is possible for the overly
aggressive guy to be influenced by Ruth to the point that he is more in touch
with the side of him that wants to be a gentlemen. But I haven’t seen the latter end well.
Now you may wonder how was Boaz aggressive. Look, you don’t
become a man of wealth and power without having an aggressive side. Even if
Boaz inherited all he had, he would still need to behave aggressively to keep
it. The moment he made sure that Ruth was protected while she provided food for
her family, was the moment Ruth saw his aggressiveness. That was the Bad Boy in
Boaz. “You mess with Ruth and you mess with me,” was essentially the message
that he sent to all of his workers.
So, if you meet a nice guy, give him a chance. He may
surprise you. You may learn to love his sense of adventure. Your last boyfriend
was passionate about motorcycles, but this one is passionate about computers.
Guess which one has a better chance of emulating the late great Steve Jobs….
If he lacks aggression, maybe your influence will teach him
to stand his ground. If you are a guy and you are reading this, recognize that the
best thing you can do is find a good balance between your passive and aggressive
nature.
Next: Finding Boaz
However, I like to write fiction, so it will be necessary
for me to interrupt the Book of Ruth series to insert a flash fiction series. The Book of Ruth will be on hiatus and in it's place, Stryker and Free will post.
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