Thursday, October 17, 2013

The Book of Ruth: Finding #Love the Biblical Way {Finding Boaz Part III~Insecurities}

 Previous Post:”Part II…Going where Boaz goes.”

I am a romantic at heart. No, I am not a romance novelist. However, every book that I have written has a romantic element. I am a fan of love. I love seeing happy couples together and cringe when I see unhappy couples tolerating one another—I see that a lot. When I read the book of Ruth, I was fascinated. They actually dated in biblical times. Who knew? Seriously, I read it and I want to share what I learned. I don’t know how long this series will last, but I will keep going until it is done.

I have met beautiful women in convenient stores, at the gas stations, random associates’ house, and on the internet. I formed decently long relationships with each one. I believed that they were all good quality people and would have made excellent wives, but in the end we didn’t want the same thing. I have always been goal oriented and believe it or not, even women have commitment issues…. In truth, we just weren’t at the same place in life.

Other than that, I could point to myself, and say that I had Boaz qualities, but there was still plenty of room to grow.

At any rate, they were all aggressive in their own way, either initiating contact or being opened to my initiation. And like Boaz I wondered, why in the world this beautiful, exotic looking woman was even giving me the time of day. Yes, I had insecurities too. But I didn’t let my insecurities hold me back. This is something you should consider too. Keep your insecurities in check when you meet Boaz. It is a turn off.

Wearing your insecurities on your sleeve is like putting a cracked vase on the coffee table in the center of your new living room set. It just doesn’t belong there. Boaz is going to accept your cracks, but not as soon as he meets you. He needs time to digest the situation. Frankly, he will put his best foot forward, because he knows that he is not perfect and he doesn’t expect you to be perfect either. The problem is that it is just unfair to place a heavy burden on anyone you just met. You will have to address certain issues, eventually—some sooner than later.

You have two [or more] children.

You have a huge college loan—that’s no one’s business until you’ve had a few dates and you can see a relationship in the future. FYI, if both of you have financial issues—it is an issue that has to be addressed and can pretty much kill most relationship.

A physical issue, like if you have six toes or something…. Boaz may surprise you about his acceptance. But you have to address this…eventually.

Seriously. How would you hide that sixth toe?

Anyway, I say play it by ear. And do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

All these scenarios may be a reason for insecurity, but insecurity, fear, and most negative emotions are a matter of perspective. Your future spouse may love children, see a college loan as a good debt, and a physical issue as another aspect of your beauty.

Besides, he will have some issues too.

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