Saturday, October 26, 2013

The Book of Ruth: Finding #Love the Biblical Way {Getting Boaz attention Part II~Dressing the Part}

Previous Post:”Part 1~Live and Learn ”

I am a romantic at heart. No, I am not a romance novelist. However, every book that I have written has a romantic element. I am a fan of love. I love seeing happy couples together and cringe when I see unhappy couples tolerating one another—I see that a lot. When I read the book of Ruth, I was fascinated. They actually dated in biblical times. Who knew? Seriously, I read it and I want to share what I learned. I don’t know how long this series will last, but I will keep going until it is done.

Okay, here is the part where I tell you to dress like Mother Teresa and you will get the kind of man you want—which of course is just not true. What man looks at Mother Teresa and thinks sexy? Someone with an oedipal complex?

Actually, I will tell you what I tell everyone about life in general. You have to find balance. Dress your age is another way of looking at it. But just because you are a in your early thirties and a mother doesn’t mean you can dress like Kim Kardashian or Beyoncé’. Consider this; it is their job to look like that, so there is a considerable amount of time that they can devote to looking like a movie star. They have time and money to put toward the effort. 

You may not have either.

Nor does it mean that you should dress like the mother's of your church or the P.E. coach. 
There is something to be learned from the “cougar.” A cougar is a woman of age who seeks to date younger men. You will know them by their dress. They tend to dress the part of a sultry woman. Moreover, in some cases you can’t even tell their age. They have wisdom on their side too. They will exercise enough. Eat right enough. And whatever “enough” doesn’t take care of, they will use makeup, girdle, and more underwear that lifts. She does a good job appearing as vibrant as possible, because she knows with men, the initial attraction is half the work. Once we {men} have made up in our mind that a woman is beautiful, very little can change that. She could wake up next to us one morning with all of that gone. No support anywhere and we will still find her as attractive as ever.

Yeah, I know you don’t believe that.

We are such visual creatures how could we maintain our interest if you don’t live up to an image. That is true for the truly shallow man. However, we are not all shallow and even though this series is not about maintaining a relationship, I will say something about it. When men lose interest, it isn’t always because the woman’s body changed. In most cases, it is because something else changes. Something with us, at work, stress overwhelming our minds. However, if it is you—which is possible—it’s because you don’t do the things that you use to do. Or he has grown and you aren’t growing. Or vice versa.

Anyway, my point is that the initial attraction is very important.

See all human beings are sexual beings. Some, more so than others. However, your dress should be the kind of dress that would attract the kind of man you want. If you dress as if you are easy, there is no way a Boaz type is going to date you. I mean seriously. His first thought might be “wow” but his second thought will be how many partners has she had? Third thought: does she have an STD?

I am telling you that it is okay to dress sexy but you have to find a balance between sexy and wholesome. I am no fashion expert, so outside of saying find your balance, and dress your age. I will say never let your style be louder than your personality. Show him that you are more than a big butt and a smile.  

Next Post: Approach with confidence.
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